Your Own Happiness, In 10 Steps
What is happiness? Happiness doesn’t mean being joyful or laughing all day long. Although happiness should be defined by each of us, a general understanding of it could be having more good moments and memories than bad ones and having a general feeling of satisfaction and fulfillment. So, how do we have more happy moments?
Give yourself permission. Give yourself permission to be happy. A lot of us have the impression that we’re not permitted to be happy, that we don’t deserve it. Well, we’re all WRONG! Most of us deserve to be happy, no matter what others say or even what we believe. And if you look deep inside you, you’ll feel it in your gut. I am right. You DO deserve to be happy. Indialantic Raccoon Removal.
Smile… even if you don’t feel like it. Yes, smile as often as possible. If you are with people, they will feel warmer and react likewise. If you’re alone, smile for at least 3 minutes and your mind will take it like a real smile and will begin generating feel-good hormones and other chemicals. Feeling bad about the past will not alter it a bit and fretting about the future will not make you any more prepared for whatever it’s that finally happens. Hopelessness lives in the past, fear later on. Choose the today and make an effort to live it. Only in the now can you truly be free.
Like yourself. Make a list of what you like on your own, no matter how small or big and remind yourself of all those traits a few times each day.
Enjoy yourself. Every night, when you go to bed, devote a few minutes to just feel love for yourself. Thank yourself for anything good you did during the day and allow the warmth of love fill you up. If that’s too hard, close your eyes and search for the little child you once were and who still lives inside you and shower that child with your love.
Flip it around. Somebody tells you something or does something you do not like? You might get mad, upset or feel ill-treated. Or you might turn it around by being original and choosing to interpret it as a wakeup call or as a humorous situation. They called you something… choose to find it funny instead of offensive. They push you, ignore you or even talk about you… choose to consider it merely a reminder that we’re all humans and, as such, make mistakes. Love the humanity in those who upset you.
Dare yourself. Early in the morning dare yourself to do something unexpected or different during the day. Choose the activity in the morning so you’ve got the whole day to find the ideal time to do it. You do not need to think of very difficult or daring plans but just something you wouldn’t usually do, like going to a particular store or ingesting a new type of food.
Share love. Say something loving to a person (or more) today. You can say it out loud or in writing. You can even draw it or sing it.
Try new words. Are you one of those who frequently uses words such us… ‘can’t’, ‘don’t understand’, ‘never’… ? Why not try to use some simpler ones such as: ‘don’t feel like’, ‘would love to learn’ or ‘not in the tradition of’… ? Or pick a positive or happy word you want to use today and try and use it as often as you can. Be courageous and imaginative with your own words.
Count your blessings. Take a piece of paper and something you want to drink and sit maybe with some nice music in the background. Then write. Write a list of all and every blessing in your life. Start with the smallest ones: I’m alive… to the biggest ones you can feel. Don’t leave anything out. Once you’re done, make the list on the table. Read it every morning during breakfast for a week.